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Dear Kat, Young Voices, The Northern & Shell Tower, 6th Floor, 4 Selsdon Way, London, E14 9GL
Dear Kat
I am 16 and I've been with my man for almost four months now and we are really into each other. He’s always so sweet and nice to me but when we’re out on road together he changes and he acts like we’re just bredrins. I only know three of his friends and that’s only because they’re my friends too! When we’re around my friends he tries to act all funny like we’re not dealing. I've tried asking him why he does that, but he just says that that’s who he is. And lastly, we've been having sex but the other day I said to him that I think we should stop and he said ok but now his trying to have sex again! I don’t want to plzzzzzz help!
That Sho Sho chick
Ban the sex! It’s that simple! Sex is not what you both should be doing because every time you do, you are not tackling the real issue. Ask yourself why he is he so off when it comes to showing affection in public but has no problems in doing so when it comes to sex. It all lies with you and how much you think you’re worth. How do you know that you’re the only one he is taking out to the movies or for a meal? Of course you will miss him if you leave, but how much is your happiness worth? My advice to you would be to ask him the reasons for his behaviour again and then make a decision based on his answer. A lot of the time people think that sex will fix the things that only talking can – this is not the case!
Holla at me and let me know what happens
K@
Wats good Kat!
I feel kinda down bcoz all of ma friends have boyfriends and it’s like I don't want to follow the crowd, but I feel kinda lonely. I’ve started thinking that I’m not pretty or too fat and things like that. Every boy that I like or can see myself being with either likes some one else or is just not interested. I’m 14 and I’m gonna be 15 this year and I know I’m too young to be thinking about this, but it’s just annoying me
Ghettoprincess
OK that's where you are going wrong - Princess you’re not Ghetto! If you are that's all you’re gonna attract. Think of it like this, if you aspire to nothing, that's what you will end up with! Wisdom is free it’s what you do with it that counts. I didn't get to where I am now overnight - it took long days and long nights and a lot of tears shed. I didn't give up - I knew my dream and made it happen! When I was getting my craft together, everyone else was chasing girls and ended up having children very young. I was the guy that was laughed at because I didn't have girls around me and I was teased and called all sorts of names. I was even challenged to prove that I liked girls! I'm in a good place now and can choose any girlfriend I want because I have something to offer. Take your time to grow and get your mind right. Stay happy and keep me updated.
Mwah!
K@
Hey Kat
I am 17 and I have had about 12-15 boyfriends but I'm still a virgin. All my friends are having sex now and that’s all they talk about. I feel like I can't fit in like how I used to back in the day and I feel left out and not wanted. Sometimes I feel like I have to have sex just so I can talk to them. It’s really hard for me coz I feel like I'm losing my friends over it. A friend of mine that I have known for 10 years started going out with this boy and she started having sex with him and then she dropped me for him. I don’t know what to do! Should I go back to her or let her come to me?
Can u please help me please, I'm so confused!
Love Rachel, south-west xxxx
First of all, if your so-called ‘friend’ dropped you for a man, she was not a friend! Being a virgin is so special and you will find that boys will want to be with you just for that fact. You are in a place of power and a lot of girls wish they could be in that position - I take my hat off to you! If your friends can’t except you for holding out then they are the one with the problem - they are used goods! Don't be duped into a sexual relationship and loose your virginity until you are truly ready
Holla @ me man!
K@
